Why Go To Counselling?
Finding a suitably qualified counsellor will begin the process of finding your own strength and courage, discovering more about the impact of what is currently happening, exploring the different options that might be available to you, learning where you might need to accept things that are out of your control, and finally arriving at your preferred solution to move forward with and try out.
Working individually with a counsellor can be a deeply rewarding, and often highly emotional, time. It’s more intense than chatting with friends because the entire session time is focused on you, slowly exploring your thoughts, feelings, options, and the actions you’ll choose moving forward. Unlike the risk with friends and family, counselling is not about advice-giving; it’s about support, listening, understanding, and your decision-making, in a confidential and safe setting.
No relationship is ever entirely smooth sailing. Sometimes the problems are overtly present form the beginning of the relationship, sometimes they surface after a long time of being together, or as a result of unexpected stresses. Whatever trouble your relationship is in, and no matter how severely your relationship is being affected, almost all couples can benefit from couples or relationship counselling at some time in their relationship.
When unexpected change strikes
When change occurs quickly or unexpectedly our emotions are naturally heightened and we often struggle with the need to make sense of what’s happening and, possibly, the need to take back some level of control over what is changing. Often, though, our frustration and anxiety rises as we focus our attention on the negative aspects of the change – the bits we didn’t ask for and the bits that don’t suit us, and this resistance can often leave exhausted, overwhelmed and down-hearted.
Change can occur in our workplace, in our relationships with our family, partners or friends, in our health or the health of someone close to us, or in our financial situation.